The old adage goes, “good things come to those who wait.” I think this is complete and utter bullsh*t. In dating, the waiting game is just a brain implosion waiting to happen.
There are rules that govern every aspect of dating, none of which impose more stress or uncertainty than time. Here are my top five clichéd rules for waiting in dating:
The 3-Day Rule
There’s an unspoken rule that stipulates if you get a girls number, you have to wait 3 days before calling or texting her. It’s not as if three days later, the girl or guy will be dying to hear from you to the point of being overcome with relief when you finally do text her. Let’s be real here — you have a number, so use it. The other party is obviously interested, so reach out. End of story.
Time Between Texts
This is probably the most annoying thing possible when getting to know someone. Every time you meet someone new and have a text conversation going, there’s this unwritten code that you’re not supposed to answer back instantly so you don’t come across as too eager or too desperate.
While there may be some truth to this, if you’re having a great conversation with someone, just answer. There’s no reason to make someone wait a handful of minutes to hear back from you just because you read somewhere that you shouldn’t answer right away.
This is something that’s really not that big of a deal for a lot of people. If I’m on a first date with a girl, I’m going in for the kiss at the end of the night. If I get denied or cheeked, I know things either didn’t go well or there was a serious lack of chemistry. You’ll probably find out pretty quickly if there’s any mutual attraction. Unless a girl has some no-kissing-on-the-first-date rule (which many women don’t have), it’s safe to say you should go for it.
This is an instance when the waiting game can potentially pay off. It’s probably directed more toward women and how long they make a guy wait to get into their pants. I’ve heard everything from the five-date rule, to the one-month rule… yada, yada, yada. Truly, there just needs to be communication about when the time is right.
For some of you, it could be the first night and for others, it could be three months later. It’s just a matter of preference that really boils down to the chemistry and how you feel, rather than a rule you read somewhere.
It’s probably not smart to introduce a significant other to your family until six months have passed. If you’ve been with someone for less time, it hasn’t been long enough for you to know whether the person is serious. If you’re still in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, you can’t really know if the relationship will last or not. Six months is a good indicator of whether or not it’s working — this is a safe time to introduce someone to your family.