God I love this word. And I’m pretty sure I invented it. At least I think I did. Regardless, I’ve coined this epic expression to describe a bit of what relationships seem to be morphing towards nowadays. There seems to be amongst the dating populous a less and less inclination for serious relationships and a focus primarily on an open relationship with exclusive sex rights.
It seems to me that a lot of people who are dating in their twenties fall into one of two categories. Locked up ie. significant other. Or someone who’s just looking to have fun. A lot of times the people who fall into the open category tend to have a FWB (friend with benefits) or a fuck buddy. Or as I’m going to call it, Fuckships. The thing I’ve found about F is they’re pretty simple. Ultimately, you’re both single, able to do as you please but when it comes down to sex you’re monogamous. Monogamous in a sense that you can sleep with whoever you want but choose to remain simply with one person. AKA Fuckship.
So, I’m not entirely sure how I feel about these scenarios. Truthfully, I’m getting to the point in life where casual doesn’t really fall into my lexicon anymore. And it seems that inevitably when you choose to enter into a FWB situation or a Fuckship you’re locking yourself into a single person when it comes to the sex department. And honestly how does this differ from a relationship? Even though you’re not necessarily being introduced to each others families and meeting mom and dad, this still kind of feels like you’re still in a relationship to me. Even though it hasn’t reached the family status yet It appears to me that tagging a Fuckship as exclusive is about as close to a bf/gf situation as you’re going to get. At the end of the day if you’re agreeing not to have sex with anyone else, what’s the difference?
There seems an ever-increasing proclivity for people in their 20’s to gravitate towards relationships. It seems that forcing something is the norm and not wanting to be alone is a sad reality. And I know, I’ve definitely been there. However, I often find there’s immense pressure not just from family but from friends to have a significant other around and I’m not entirely sure why. Ultimately, you need to make the choice for yourself. If you find someone you want to be with great. If you don’t have that person so what? Do what makes you happy and if that’s having a significant other so be it and if it means simply having a Fuckship, at the end of the day it’s your happiness that’s important.