I’d say the most difficult thing for someone to come to terms with is just what exactly it is they want out of life. It’s easy to say, I want to be rich and famous, have a great family, a great job, a nice house, 5 cars all that bullshit. But the fact of the matter is some of those things may not even be remotely what you’re looking for. It’s funny, I’m at an interesting crossroads right now in my life, and apparently so is everyone I know. People are making decisions about jobs, relationships, money, all the things that get people so stressed out. It can be a nerve wracking and painstaking time figuring out what you want out of life. And I’m just gonna give you the heads up, I have no fucking idea what will make you happy. Hell I’m not sure I have an idea of what will make me happy. That’s part of the reason why I started this blog, to give me something to do with my utter boredom.
The facts are simple, do what makes you happy. Easier said then done usually but the point is simple, do what makes you feel the best. Now a lot of times this can get people in trouble. You can think one day having a fancy car, or a big house, or girl X, or guy Y, will make you happy and once it stops making you happy can be a difficult thing to come to terms with. The trick is that when you make a decision no matter what it may be, you stand behind it 100%. You have to trust in your gut, trust in what you think will make you happy, and if at any point that decision leads you down a road that isn’t where you want to be it’s time to move on and figure something else out. Life is much to short, and to live life anything other then happy all the time, you’re not just cheating yourself but the people around you. No sense in walking around every day miserable when you really just have to take a few days and look at yourself in the mirror and decide who it is you want to be, and what it is in life that will help you get there.
I wish I could say I have all the answers, but I don’t. The fact is I’m making it up as I go along, just like everyone else. I’ve just seen a lot of things and learned a lot in my life to know that if something isn’t making you happy, it’s time to move on. That goes for everything in life, not just dating. The important thing is that once you find something that makes you happy, hang on to it, nurture it, and relish the moments you have with it. If you have a job that you love, love being there everyday, love the little things about it. If you have a significant other that makes you feel good all the time, that is incredible and you should cherish that as well. The thing to remember is that you have to appreciate the things you have in life, and the people you share your life with. Not everyone will be around forever so make use of the time you have. Drink too much, laugh too loud, and above all enjoy it, because you only have one life to live and you might as well make the most of it.